Guys, in this article I am going to speak the hard truth. You might agree with me or not – I have nothing against that. I actually like it when people don’t agree with me, as long as you can back it up with some facts, not just something you are biased and brainwashed about.
Let me ask you a question first: why would a successful 30-year old drive a BMW instead of Toyota Camry? Camry is probably way more reliable and cost-effective, and serves the same purpose – get you from point A to point B. Another good example: why some rich people buy 10.000.000$ massive, 10-bedroom houses when it’s just husband and wife living in it?
The answer lies in 2 simple words: SOCIAL STATUS. In other, more jargon terms, you want to be cool and dominate.
I can hear some of you saying: “f*ck you! I just train for myself, I don’t care what others think about me”. BS my friend, you might not care about people who are below your level, but you will care (subconsciously) about people on your level and especially above.
Please, don’t argue with what’s been inside our brain for thousands of years, as we were turning from monkeys (or whoever) into modern humans with developed brain. I am not going to get deep into evolution, but most of our brain is still an animal brain responsible for standard survival instincts, basic emotions and social situations (it actually consists of 2 parts called crocodile brain and mid-brain). Only 1 extra small part of the brain (Neocortex) evolved with a problem-solving ability and is able to think about complex issues and produce answer using reason.
So, big muscle, cool car, cool house, rolex watch – these are all social markers. Of course, this is just an overall view on things, some guys build muscle to impress girls, some are to compete and prove other bodybuilders their physiques are better, some are to feel more confident and so on. Let’s be honest, when you see a girl with a nice butt, you think of her (other aspects being equal) much better than of a chubby one. You might not show it (and you must NOT), but subconsciously this is what will at least pop into your mind. People will always look differently and with more respect at people with those markers. It has been a big part of our survival thousands of years ago.
Now, you might think I am a dick. But I will tell you this: I just told you how our brain works and what most people’s true motivations are (there are rare exceptions to even what I just talked about). I am actually against showing off and being a dick. In the modern world, to survive and be liked by people, you have to learn to suppress your animal side of the brain, and use it only when you are by yourself and really need it.
I really just don’t like it when people lie, especially lie to themselves. You have to know the real truth behind things. There is completely nothing wrong with what I just said (this is something outside our control, it’s our nature), be honest with yourself and your real motivations. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have a better social status in life, but AGAIN, as long as you control it and don’t look down at people who are not as big as you. You never know who this person is. He might be a chubby dude, but a millionaire entrepreneur. In this case, you guys have social status and success in 2 different areas. Most people will try to put each other down (bodybuilder will call another dude fat ass, while another one will call him a broke fitness guy with no money). Again, why does it happen? Competing for status, who is better, cooler. But you have to be the one that will respect the dude for success in what he does and become friends with him!